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Temper tantrums are a way a young child lets out strong emotions before he or she is able to express them in socially acceptable ways.
Temper tantrums often occur only with a parent. They are a way a child communicates his or her feelings.
Parents can learn from their child by understanding the situation that caused the temper tantrum to erupt. Temper tantrums often begin at about 1 year of age and continue until age 2 to 3. As a young child learns more and becomes more independent, he or she wants to do more than he or she can physically and emotionally manage.
This is frustrating to the child and the frustrations are expressed in a variety of ways. Temper tantrums are worse and occur more often when a child is hungry, tired, or sick. Some reasons children have temper tantrums include the following:. Although temper tantrums sometimes happen without warning, parents can often tell when a child is becoming upset.
Knowing the situations when your child is more likely to have a tantrum and thinking ahead may help. An example is not letting your child become overtired or hungry. If he throws a fit when overtired, make naptime a top priority.
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Ignore him unless he is physically endangering himself or others. Walk out of the room and set a timer for a few minutes to check on him. If your child starts hitting, kicking, biting, or throwing things during a meltdown, stop him immediately and remove him from the situation.
Make it clear that hurting others is not acceptable. Take away a privilege and put him in a timeout if necessary. But save time-outs for harmful behavior; the more you use them, the less effective they become.
Your child will end up matching your volume because, ultimately, she wants to engage with you. If she loses it at the movies or another public spot, take her outside. Try offering her the option of sitting on a bench or in the car while she settles down. For some kids, having choices like these can help, especially if a lack of control is the reason behind the outburst. Post-tantrum, follow through with the original demand that started the fit in the first place.
You can talk to your child about his or her behavior at a later time during quiet play. When parents give in, children learn to use inappropriate behavior to get their way. You can also model healthy ways to handle frustration in the heat of the moment, such as taking deep breaths. Knowing the situations when your child is more likely to have a tantrum and thinking ahead may help. The smart parent's guide to coping with your kid's fits. The next time you feel the urge to spank, take a deep breath instead and consider what you want your child to learn. Move on to another activity with your child.
Once your child follows through and picks up the toy, praise her. After all, that is the positive behavior you want her to remember and repeat. Because your child also values her growing independence, needing your help can be frustrating. While tantrums may start with anger, they are often rooted in sadness. Their communication is limited, yet they have all these thoughts and wishes and needs to be met.
When you don't get the message or misunderstand, they freak out to release their frustration. Teaching your child how to sign a few key words—such as more, food, milk, and tired—can work wonders.
Another approach is to empathize with your kid, which helps take some of the edge off the tantrum, and then play detective. So I say, 'Show me what you want,' and then I see if she'll point to it. It's not always obvious, but with a little time and practice you begin to communicate better. If she points to her older brother, for example, that usually means that he's snatched something away from her, and I can ask him to give it back.
I can't tell you how many awful, drawn-out meltdowns we've avoided this way! Just make sure there's nothing in tantrum's way that could hurt him. They're able to get their feelings out, pull themselves together, and regain self-control -- without engaging in a yelling match or battle of wills with you. Why do kids have tantrums? Here's a guide to understanding your munchkin's fits and how to deal with them at home and in public.
This is all about a deft mental switcheroo—getting your kid engaged and interested in something else so she forgets about the meltdown she was just having. Whenever a tantrum happens, she busts 'em out, one at a time, until something gets the kids' attention. If your kid is about to go off the deep end at the supermarket because you won't buy the super-frosted sugar-bomb cereal, try quickly switching gears and enthusiastically saying something like, "Hey, we need some ice cream.
Want to help me pick a flavor? And it always helps if you sound really, really psyched when you do it. It gets their mind off the meltdown and on to the next thing that much faster.