The New Topping Book

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There was a problem filtering reviews right now. Please try again later. Kindle Edition Verified Purchase. Once again a book written for those who essentially are beginning in BDSM. I bought this book hoping it would cater more to those who do have some experience and are looking to advance their knowledge and skills. The last part of the book was interesting. I found that to be an interesting read. I just wish BDSM authors would stop turning out the same info book after book and hat someone would write a book that focuses on advance BDSM not beginner.

Quite an interesting read. The latter chapters on psychology were the parts I found most interesting and useful, and over all it's a well written book. This book is great. I especially liked listening to the audio version.

Adds a bit of hilarity to hear an older woman talking about piggy slut bottoms haha. Could have used more resources in the resource guide though. But def a must read for a noob top. One of the best I've read on the subject yet, and I've read quite a few in the last year. I've read at least one other book and other excerpts and articles by this author and can tell that the author speaks from experience. This book was incredible. The content was easy to digest and addressed many areas of topping which I had not considered as a novice. I have already re-read the book after reading some other bdsm literature and still find the book insightful and found aspects that I glossed over previously.

Especially helpful for me were the interviews snippets and scenes, which helped me understand that some of my personal fears of being a top are shared by others and its not something that is wrong with me. I would heartily recommend this book to anyone interested in the scene. I did find this book quite useful, apart from the last two chapters maybe I would say it's a good book to start off research with.

It also brought up topics for discussions between myself and my mate that we may not have ordinarily thought of. Really useful information, touches on a lot of topics that other books don't. I had read The New Bottoming Book by the same authors years ago and wanted to give this one a try, and I'm so glad I did. Learned a lot from this book and it gave me lots to think about.

It's inclusive, thoughtful, honest, and really shows how experienced the authors are in the subject. Highly recommend this to any top wanting to learn more and get some food for thought, and to any bottom who wants to see the top view of things. Great book for a beginning understanding of the pleasures and joys of topping!

Really helps get one started on the pathway to pleasurable sex. See all 28 reviews. Amazon Giveaway allows you to run promotional giveaways in order to create buzz, reward your audience, and attract new followers and customers. Learn more about Amazon Giveaway. If you are acquainted with the scene or take part in it, don't bother, you likely know everything in the book already.

Pretty much everything in this book is common sense and obvious to me. There are some good insights or well-put thoughts, but an overwhelming majority of the book is filler content and repetition. My issue is mainly the writers I didn't know what I was expecting. My issue is mainly the writers' assumption that there is an inherent order or structure to play sessions or scenes that have to be adhered to and respected at all times.

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Granted, you plan your acts ahead, take into account myriad minute nuances, stay focused and connected with your sub the whole time, but BDSM relationship dynamic is highly subjective and empathetic. Many times, the unwritten rules or procedures are discarded and replaced by partners' mutual agreements and ways. That issue is reinforced by constant recaps of writer's personal accounts of public play sessions, which are, frankly, of very little interest and importance and are brought up too often. I skipped some parts, mostly irrelevant Interludes and many parts of the ending which for some reason delved into spiritualism and dragged our old boy Jung into it.

All in all, I convinced myself to never touch any book that deals with romantic or sexual relationships as it's all baloney. I read this non-fiction, educational BDSM book along with another one that contrasted greatly. The other was like an encyclopedia with editorial comments. This one is written more like a journey through the thoughts and emtotions of the power exchange.

The other was about the facts. This one is about the feels. I enjoyed both books but they do serve distinctly different purposes. As other reviewers have said, this book is not a how to. There is practical advice but it's more filled with understa I read this non-fiction, educational BDSM book along with another one that contrasted greatly.

There are lots of deep, profound thoughts and many personal stories. I found the book very easy to read. It has a conversational style, as if you're having coffee with the author while she tells you about her personal experiences. I really enjoyed the style. Sep 15, Shhhhh Ahhhhh rated it it was amazing.

This is a really good book. I'm sort of in a raw place after reading it, especially the end, so I probably won't be able to write coherently about it right now. Wanting to hurt people isn't necessarily bad and doesn't necessarily make you a bad person. BDSM can be a means of dealing with energy, impulses, and feelings that it is unsafe to express in'regular' life. BDSM is philosophically compatible with shamanic and spirit work as a form of releasing held trauma, changing assumpti This is a really good book.

BDSM is philosophically compatible with shamanic and spirit work as a form of releasing held trauma, changing assumptions and expectations about the world, examining identity, and rewriting our personal histories. Please read this or the bottoming book or both, if you've ever found yourself in a situation where your dominant or submissive energy is leaking into situations and making them dysfunctional. Sep 01, Mashiara Dream rated it liked it Shelves: I read this book mainly because I wanted to understand top headspace better yes, this is what I read as writing research , and I think it was possibly the wrong expectation for this book.

While it is a solid book with many practical beginners' recommendations, I did not find a connection to the content, and thus, for me, ultimately reading the book did not give me any new information and it didn't give me a deeper understanding, either. Nov 15, Rachel rated it liked it Shelves: Really interesting, fairly comprehensive overview of ethics and communication skills for kinky relationships written by two queer white women, one of whom is also a therapist. I specify white because they make overtures to talking about race-related power dynamics and POC in the kink community, but don't get much farther than mere acknowledgement.

This was a fairly comprehensive beginners' guide. It was well written, lively, and approachable. If it has a strength, it is that the authors, Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy, are very concerned with making sure that there is something useful for any new or would-be top who reads this book. The trade-off is that this is an extremely generalist book that is not going to be fully applicable to individual circumstances.

There are no guides to kn This was a fairly comprehensive beginners' guide. There are no guides to knots, technique, etc. There are some very basic lists of supplies you can purchase as you start to explore any interest you may have in tying or restraining your partner, or applying this or that sort of painful sensation, or what have you.

You're not going to learn how to safely tie someone's wrists, or where it is and is not safe to flog someone. You'll learn the difference between rope bondage and handcuffs and broadly which of the two is safer for beginners. They give a basic, high-level explanation of the difference between a flogger and a riding crop.

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Easton and Hardy don't dismiss the minutiae of technique as unimportant. Far from it; they are very clear about the responsibilities that come with rendering someone helpless. Tops have a burden of care to make sure nobody suffers permanent harm, and because of this responsibility the authors insist that a top shouldn't attempt any technique that he or she can't be sure of using in a safe, controlled manner. A few principles seem to have guided Easton and Hardy in the penning of this volume.

First, they're very much in favor of involving oneself in a local BDSM community, attending "munches" jargon for informal, fully-clothed meet-and-greet sessions open to anyone who wants to attend , taking classes and attending demos. All great advice if you are in a place that has a community to join.

Second, they assume pretty firmly that theirs readers are single or non-monogamous. If you're in a committed, monogamous relationship, a lot of their advice is going to have to be adapted heavily to your situation. They don't talk about technique because they are focused on motivation. If you want technique, there are dozens of excellent guides to knots, whips, ropes, sex toys, and everything else you can think of.

Plus videos all over the Internet. The New Topping Book still is worth reading. I'm new enough to have found it enlightening, even after parsing Easton and Hardy through the perspective of a rural, monogamous, heterosexual reader. If you are part of the core audience for this book and you live in a major city, it will be much more useful to you.

I'll read the rest of these authors' work, based on what is here, because I think there are useful tidbits to be gleaned from them. Sep 13, JackLeGeth rated it liked it Shelves: Apr 16, Paige La Marchand rated it it was amazing Shelves: The original version The Topping Book was published in Easton and Hardy are open-minded switches and have decades of experience to share. Jun 16, Cher rated it it was ok Shelves: These Easton books taught me absolutely nothing about how to approach topping, bottoming, or a poly lifestyle.

All they say is to communicate and sit patiently with whatever your partner has to say unless it cramps your poly style -- hey what a great idea! There is very little practical advice about how to find community, multiple approaches to different types of These Easton books taught me absolutely nothing about how to approach topping, bottoming, or a poly lifestyle. There is very little practical advice about how to find community, multiple approaches to different types of relationships, etc.

It's a very "free to be you and me as long as you're cool with everything" attitude. I think the reason they are so popular is because there really aren't very many good non-fiction books out there about these issues. I'm waiting for Easton to write a beyond-the-basics book that explores the issues far deeper. One brief chapter of The Lesbian Sex Manual has more information about fantasy exploration and its benefits and potential hazards than do these books added together.

And if you are interested in polyamory, try The Lesbian Polyamory Reader. You don't have to be a lesbian to appreciate the multiple perspectives expressed and the wisdom dispensed within. Feb 25, Christopher Munroe rated it it was amazing. There may come a time in your life where an, in hindsight, obviously abusive relationship leaves you completely disassociated from your body and sexuality. In times like that, I should think, it is only right and natural to go back to your roots. Reconnect with yourself on a fundamental level, remind yourself who you are and what it is that you like.

Y There may come a time in your life where an, in hindsight, obviously abusive relationship leaves you completely disassociated from your body and sexuality. You gotta get your kink back sooner or later. In this way they are must reads for anyone. Also, they teach you how to fuck better. Jun 10, Meg rated it really liked it Shelves: The book divides itself between giving some practical advice to newcomers to the leather scene, and sharing anecdotal 'interludes' about scenes the authors or others have played and how those panned out for the people involved.

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I was glued to it from start to finish, and will be following this with The New Bottoming Book, which I purchased at the same time, very soon. Jan 02, Kelli rated it really liked it Shelves: I received this book from a wonderful mentor and found it to be a solid read. The writing style is casual yet highly informative; much like sitting down with an educated friend over a beer chatting over some topic they're passionate about.

While this is not a direct how-to guide as far as explicit techniques, etc, it does serve as a great guide for navigating the BDSM community.

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The focus is, of course, on the top's mindset and how to channel those, but I appreciate how they related that to the I received this book from a wonderful mentor and found it to be a solid read. The focus is, of course, on the top's mindset and how to channel those, but I appreciate how they related that to the bottom's role. You cannot understand one without the other and this balance gave a deeper understanding. Perfect for newbies, but also great for experienced people, this book serves as a great primer for both the emotional headspace, negotiation, aftercare, acceptance of socially unacceptable desires and physical check-ins, safety, safe words, toys, building up scenes aspects of topping.

Aug 09, Adam Wiggins rated it liked it. This book is intended as a handbook for learning to top safely, responsibly, and effectively. I liked that they frequently described how a successful scene should make everyone involved feel. The downside is that it wasn't very well-organized and felt rambly. They've apparently published many other sex and relationship books since. Mar 23, Lui Ramirez added it. A really good place to start - or refresh your memory, or rediscover yourself or your playing partner s. It puts into words things that you may have thought about but didn't have clear enough in your head, and plays with different ideas of what topping and bottoming can mean, giving examples while also stating very clearly that everyone creates their own "Top".

It is also a super quick read, b A really good place to start - or refresh your memory, or rediscover yourself or your playing partner s. It is also a super quick read, because the language is super accessible, and because the "Interludes" two page-ish anecdotes of scenes from the authors or people they know, illustrating what the authors talk about throughout the chapters, and giving sweeeet ideas to the reader are wonderful and cleverly placed throughout.

Dec 26, M. If you are already a perverted, cruel, bossy, demanding, in control kind of lover. Particularly, there are sections on how to tre If you are already a perverted, cruel, bossy, demanding, in control kind of lover. Aug 05, Slade Hashimoto rated it really liked it. As someone who is totally new to this and wanted a good place to start, this book fits the ticket.

It is not a very technical book actually, it isn't technical at all. So if you are looking for a book that tells you how to tie bondage rope knots, this isn't it. This book is all about getting into "Top Space", to help you embrace your inner toppiness. It certainly made me think about myself and how I relate to se I ended up getting this book because I have a fascination with the BDSM lifestyle. It certainly made me think about myself and how I relate to sexual experiences.

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