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Think of your relationship as the emotional environment in which your kids live.

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Just as you want them to breathe clean air and drink pure water, you want them to grow up in a loving atmosphere. Consider the following ways to make your marriage more of a priority. You always find time to listen to your best friend when she needs to vent. But if your husband seems irritable when he comes home, you might just hand him the baby and rush out the door to do errands. In these days of tag-team parenting, those lazy hours spent talking about everything can feel like a distant memory.

To stay close, Code suggests that you each share a highlight of your day like when your son winked at you across the room and a low point that parking ticket. Discussing your worst moments may seem like a downer when you have limited time together, but when you understand what the other person is going through, you'll be more of a team.

No matter how great your marriage was before you had kids, you can't just leave it on autopilot now. But I didn't want us to fight, so I stayed silent and got even madder. We all want our children to grow up feeling loved, but that doesn't mean you have to stop a conversation with your spouse anytime your kid wants you to watch her do a cartwheel.

In fact, she'll be more likely to learn patience and resilience if you ask her to wait.

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Sunday breakfast is sacred in our family because we can all sit down together. Dan and I like to read the paper and chat after we finish eating, but Aidan would constantly interrupt us. So we put a clock with a timer in the family room and told him he had to play on his own for at least a half hour after breakfast. If he did, his reward was that we'd do something special as a family later in the day. After a few weeks, he started looking forward to making plans for his "Sunday-morning-paper time.

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Even with four young kids, the two of them manage to hike, jog, and take long walks together. They also have a regular Saturday-night sitter, the same way her parents did. I'm afraid if we didn't do this now, when the kids are grown up, I'd look at Craig and say, 'Who are you?

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We went to a restaurant, and there was a pitcher on the table. Very, as it turned out. After a few weeks, he started looking forward to making plans for his "Sunday-morning-paper time. You'll also discover why you already married the perfect spouse, and why it's okay to have tough arguments. Sarah rated it it was amazing Apr 21,

Even if you're game for quality time together, a night out can get expensive. Jennifer and Dave Lucchese, of Vienna, Virginia, miss their freedom now that they have two kids. One of the big differences between couples who make the transition to parenting smoothly and those who don't is their ability to express the three A's—affection, appreciation, and admiration—says researcher John Gottman, PhD, author of And Baby Makes Three.

As I discovered with Dan, it's pretty easy. If he gets home late, instead of snapping at him I try to be sympathetic. Later, he'll be more inclined to take over bath and bedtime duties.

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And when he tells me I'm sexy in sweats and a flannel shirt, no less I'm more likely to suggest going to bed early—for fun instead of sleeping. This kind of feel-good behavior makes you want do nice things for your spouse every day because there's such gratifying payback. Routines are great for little kids, but they can make a marriage stale.

In my own zeal to reconnect with Dan, I signed us up for a weeknight pottery class. I figured, how hard could it be to make a pot? Very, as it turned out. In our second class, I accidentally ran my potter's wheel backward, flinging clay at the walls. Dan emerged looking as if he'd been swimming in a mud hole.

This book is targeted towards those who already have families, but does shed some light on some attitudes that are important to maintaining a healthy marriage. It seems to me that this book would be much more powerful for those who do not, prior to reading, "put their marriage first. The book did, however, contain enough nuggets of truth that I am glad I read it. It was interesting to consider the idea that there is a "fight or flight" response in marital conflict, and important to recognize that fighting, while it may feel awful for some, is a form of "emotional engagement" that is healthier than fleeing, which wedges distance between yourself and a partner.

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The tips for a healthy marriage at the end of the book were a simplistic letdown; though I don't doubt that "walking and talking" and "mealtime routines" are indeed habits that are part of a healthy marriage, I was looking for more specific ways that my husband and I could continue to connect as we become parents vs.

Overall, I'm glad I read the book but am hungry for a well-researched book on preparing marriages for new parenthood; there seems to be a lack of this kind of text on the market.

I would love recommendations! Tough nut to swallow This book made me take a long hard look at myself and gives me so much more understanding and insight into my child and more importantly my marriage. May 18, Beth Pratt rated it it was ok. I got this book mostly on the strength of the title, which sounds like the perfect antidote to the style of parenting I think is too prevalent in our society. However, the book itself doesn't really live up to the title, dressing up a little common sense in a lot of fluff.

I can only really recommend the last chapter. Sep 26, Win rated it liked it. This is a helpful tool to understand how your roots shaped you to what you are today. The problem is I often need to re-read the examples written in the beginning, the author always refer to those examples to demonstrate the story written at the end of the book. Rehan rated it liked it May 04, Karen Lorbis rated it really liked it Apr 02, Dor Raz rated it really liked it Feb 18, Jhawks3 rated it liked it Jan 11, Sarah rated it it was amazing Apr 21, Ashley rated it really liked it Sep 11, Christy rated it it was amazing Jan 06, Jess rated it liked it Aug 29, Josh rated it liked it Jul 08, Katsim Simons rated it liked it Jul 24, Carri Lyons rated it liked it Nov 27, Nalini rated it really liked it Jan 29, Richard rated it it was ok Oct 27, Kristina rated it really liked it Dec 28, Linda rated it liked it Aug 29, Estela Anders rated it it was ok Jul 11, Ramy rated it liked it Apr 17,